My husband's family turned away when I did not continue to let him stay at home

My husband and my husband's family reacted harshly, criticizing me, saying that I was selfish, so that the boy would suffer.

When I was a student, my husband and I lived with my husband and I for 4 years, I took one and a half million dong per month to support living expenses (his family has conditions). Because I'm a boy, I don't know how to do housework, if I can do it, I won't say anything, so I don't have to do any housework. I happily accepted because I thought he was not independent, so I should help, as if I were to serve another child.

My house has only 2 bedrooms, currently the couple and 2 children share a room; But as the children get older, they need to have their own living space to prevent them from seeing bad things. Therefore, when she graduated and found a job with a high income, I suggested that she let her stay at the boarding house for everyone to relax. I think a young 24-year-old young man who has a job and has a high income will be able to live independently.

Because of this, the relationship between husband and wife was hard, the husband's family turned to me even though they had not praised before. Am I wrong to do that, everyone?

Hòa
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Knowing my husband hid me to send money back, my parents still received it

I asked them two times when they were still hiding me while I voted, and had to pay the debt.

The husband secretly sent money to his parents 587
Hello brothers and sisters, I am the author of the article: "The husband secretly sent money to his parents". After reading 11 pages of comments, I decided to write more articles to help people understand my family's situation, as well as through this I share my confidences. I have a straight personality and have already talked to my husband. Many of your questions, I think it is necessary to correct them so that those who easily write down those lines, please think in many ways.

My family is from the Central region, my father passed away when I was in 9th grade, and my mother raised two sisters to study alone. Money is very important to me. Money to support themselves, to aspire, to a better life. From a child who is lower than you, graduated from 16 million to 43 million as at present, I have been striving incessantly, not sticking to my husband as you compare. Before getting married, I also helped my mother pay off the debt, raise her child, and then save 100 million to get married. My husband is in the same class, graduated from the same starting point as me, after 3 years of working, 6 months before the wedding, he could not save any money, money was sent to his hometown to help his family. His family is from a farmer in the West, only he is educated, by the time he graduated, the siblings were married.

We just wanted to get married in the city because we had friends and colleagues, but we both wanted to do it in the countryside, so each family took care of the expenses. In particular, after the wedding, my mother gave me all the money to make dowry, and my parents-in-law asked to keep the gold, I did not agree because it was the money that the couple saved themselves. Perhaps so that the husband just gave us 500 thousand coins to ride. Since the wedding, we have sent money to the family of the husband but of course it is fixed and not miscellaneous as the time the husband sent it. My mother was young and had income so she agreed to help her when she needed it and Tet money, and my father's death anniversary.

In 2015, after 6 months of marriage we earned about 35 million, to save 300 million, decided to buy a home more than one billion. Need to borrow a lot, but my sister refused even though we promised to pay 50 million after a few months, my father said I could not help, so that was all. Honestly, I think if your family manages to lend it to us, I will appreciate them a lot. My mother borrowed an additional VND 300 million from his uncle and uncle, and I borrowed VND 600 million to buy a house. As I save, I should pay back the debt within 3 years, pay it according to the decreasing balance, so I will gradually have a surplus from 2017, at the same time I was born, hired a maid, sent my child to school ... Our grandmother still regularly performs monthly medical check-ups, buy health insurance for both parents. Particularly grandparents won land compensation of about 100 million in 2017 and then built houses, my wife and I also helped.

In 2018, we had a surplus of 700 million to buy a second apartment in the inner city for the convenience of going to primary school later. The loan this time I did not ask an hour to his family, because I know I asked the same. My mother gave me a mortgage of VND 1.2 billion, I borrowed an additional aunt and uncle VND 400 million. All the disabilities I ask for are here to borrow, this time the couple's income is 70 million / month, of which I earn 38 million. At the beginning of the year, I also had to sell more miscellaneous goods even though I had a lot of work to earn more income to offset interest. My mother sold a stall and borrowed money to pay the loan. Even her surplus of 10 million also asked me to pay the bank. 2 months now our income increased to 95 million is also when I see my husband send money to the family without notice. If you look at the whole long process of striving, I don't think that the level of support for your grandparents is too small or that we are at risk, I do not agree with excessive expenses, shopping, spending, drinking. gosh ... I'm a picky person, so if I look at it from a Westerner, it's probably stingy. It is better to be stingy than not have any spare money like my husband and I married. Or do we have uncertainties in our lives, who support us and our children?

When I stepped into my husband's house, my parents are the one who raised me to school, so far I have not been able to help my mother much. While I and my husband's family, the past did not have each other, my grandparents did not provide material support since I came back to work as a loan even though I borrowed it. My view is back and forth, sometimes through one I will go back 10, but as the behavior of grandparents, I feel that the support was appropriate to the situation. Not to mention my father and sister-in-law know my husband sent home 20 million not talking to me, still laughing and accepting money.

I have made it clear to my husband how hurt I feel, my money does not have to be reclaimed, but the conduct I find unsuitable in the role of the elderly is my father and sister-in-law, if in a nurturing family For me, maybe everything will be different. My friend and husband sent money to my husband and my parents called me to ask if my friend knew. You will feel that my life is stressful, but I am still fulfilling my family's standard of living, traveling every year, eating and drinking, going to school without debt and repaying my children. What we do now is to help our children have a better life in the future, not to beg for adoption. You also do not feel in my article only money is money, we are talking about the topic of money, family expenses, I cannot gossip about the colorful life we ​​are going through. Thank you everyone and please close my story here.

Hien
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My wife definitely did not let me test DNA of a newborn baby

My mother asked me to take a DNA test, my wife said if she did she would hug her baby, what should I do?

Please introduce me in Lam Dong, 41 years old, once a 3-year-old son died when he drowned. Since then my wife 'released' forever without pregnancy. We went to see the treatment because his wife had 2 ovaries blocked and ovarian decline. We also tried treatment and fertilization, but we could not get enough eggs so we could not do it. We only knew how to use traditional medicine for miscellaneous plants. 13 years have passed, my wife has never been pregnant. Until last year my mother went to buy some medicine from a physician, then she took it for 7 or 8 months. My wife was pregnant and my baby was born and everyone said it was not like me.

My family sold the whole field to buy medicine for my wife. The couple was very hard to have this child. I want to do DNA testing, the company says I need hair samples or nails of my children and father but my wife insists on not doing it. If I do it, I will leave home. My mother said to do. I do not know what to do. Now she's hugging me all day, there's no way to get a sample, she doesn't have hair. One side is the mother, the other is the wife, what should I do right? Actually the baby is not like his parents at all. I am very confused, insomnia 2 weeks now. Now look forward to writing up so readers have advice for me. Thank you.

Huynh
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'A hut of two gold hearts paintings' is durable

From the day he started working as a real estate salesman, I had to ask for extra support from my mother to take care of both of our boarding houses. His salary was within the limit of a dozen days, then I braced myself.

We have known each other for more than 2 years, through the mutual play friends. At that time, I didn't think I would know him because he was younger. At that time, he was just a graduate student, his career was not stable. Gradually, I was persuaded by him because of his quiet personality, hard work, older thoughts than his age, I accepted his affection at any time.

We are all people from the province who come to Saigon to study and work. Later, when the two moved to live in a shared accommodation, our bad habits gradually showed up, disagreements about thinking, and how to live a lot. It was over.

For the past half year, he moved to a real estate company in sales position, before that he also studied to get a real estate broker certificate. He shared that he was interested in this career and wanted to work to see if it was appropriate. I support because you think that you will try probation within 3 months is clear results, probationary salary is just over 3 million. I have been unemployed for a long time, mostly as a freelancer, my income is not stable, just enough to take care of myself.

Every day I give him money to spend, meet customers. Just after 3 months, he still has not closed a customer to bring the contract to the company. I have repeatedly commented that the work is not suitable, he should move to the right major in the hotel restaurant, it is better, the main thing is to stabilize their material life, but now we still have to Get more support from family. Our family are all unaware of this affair.

Yet every time I share the worry that "rice and rice money", he gets angry, saying that this job needs to be persistent to succeed, where it has absorbed a few months. He also told me to look down on him, criticize him for being incompetent, say that his family did not support him, and that I was the only one who supported him. He made himself do it, said no need to help me from any money now, borrow yourself, take care of, do not bother me. He was even more sulky, saying that he would go to work more at night in the restaurant until late at night. Every time I was angry, he ran away from home in the night, and I always begged and apologized to not want him to wander the streets.

For the past few months I have been trying not to ask my mother for any more money. The money I saved with most of it around when living around worrying for both. I lived moderately and waited for luck from him to close a guest to receive a% of commission from the contract. Or rather, I just hope to quickly come to the day when he will give up the hope of this precarious job.

To this day, when I heard him say that this month's salary was just over one and a half million dongs due to the deduction of up to 2 million for running the general advertising of the team, I urged him to quit immediately. You have done this work for half a year, I told you that if you do not take a break, I will go back to my hometown for a while, only then will I be able to reduce the spending for one person. When you spend most of it I will go back to help you.

So he turned to tell me to leave him in difficult times, and then told him to do this because of his passion, whether he had to leave or anything after Tet. He said he was not the type to live in safety, didn't dare to face challenges like me; If I can't suffer with him, that's all, he doesn't force me. He told me to find someone else to take care of my life better. Actually, he is a good person, very fond of pampering me, he comes home from work and also knows to take care of rice, laundry, cleaning the house. I did not expect anything more than a simple life, just having enough warm clothes, enough food to wear, not falling into poverty, debt was very peaceful. Yet the way of life, our views differ so much, has not found a common voice.

I was bewildered, not sure what to do to improve the relationship between the two of us? Am I too pragmatic to support my career passion? Please give me sincere advice. Thanks a lot.

Linh
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He was about to get married, and he said many things that hurt me

My friend and I have known for nearly 2 years, considering the wedding. A few months before the wedding I discovered his temper but let it go.

For nearly a month of getting ready to get married we quarreled loudly because I went to the market to buy new house cleaning tools without consulting him. At a time of conflict, I wanted to explain why I had bought it without asking him, he shouted, told me to shut up, shut up.

I want to tell him to correct it, he said he can stand it, if he can't stand it then go another way. Why is that, while I do everything I think for him, always try to make him happy, so that he will not work hard. Yet I received the dissatisfaction and hurtful, painful words that almost fainted from him. Hope you share with me.

Dung
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I'm happy to be home with a little girl

14 years ago, I was a young graduate teacher, full of enthusiasm. Suffering the new job that taught the final year students should be basically the same.

Once the school organized an exchange with a bank, I sang a song and finished singing down the seat when a small, lovely student with sad eyes holding a shy rose bouquet: "I give you ", that moment changed my whole life.

I was so impressed with the young student that she went to the student room to ask for background information, she did not attend the class she taught. Then I found out her home address and boldly came over. Just like that during the day, the teacher went to teach, the students went to school, in the evening he went to school and the students worked part-time. After 2 years when I graduated from graduate school, the student graduated from university and then went to work, the teachers and students decided to go to the same house.

Then the big princess was born, the husband of the lecturer and the accountant wife, in general, the material life was also difficult. Then I started a business with my friend, 3 years after the loss, debt. Perhaps teaching and opening a company at the same time, so it's not good to do anything. My wife always encouraged me to pass, and then I went everywhere to borrow money to pay the debt. I decided to take a break from teaching, close the company, go to work for a foreign company, and my wife quit my accounting job and came back to open a small shop selling women's fashion. Time went by, debt after 2 years to work I paid off.

After getting married, I want the couple to live separately but the wife does not agree with the reason like no one: "In private, who can manage the teacher, but he kept going around so I stay at home with my grandparents to help avoid fear". That's it, my wife has been living with her parents-in-law for 14 years now and never knows. Having my parents always defended her, more than defending my son, didn't know why.

Now, after 14 years, the time is not too long or too short, my wife and I have a spacious house with a swimming pool, trees, a car large enough for the whole family to hang out for the weekend and especially have three more lovely angels that I just want to finish working hours to return to them immediately. It is said that happiness comes from the simplest things and yes, after 14 years everything can change, shape, relationship, but the one thing that doesn't change is my love for her. . I still want a working day to pass quickly so I can go home to play with my three angels and tease my little student.

On the last day of autumn, the weather was nice, the schedule with the partner was soon and successful faster than expected. Sitting in his room he wanted to write some thanks to "my little student". Want to say a sentence: "Thank you my little pupil".

Tuyen
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I went back home for five and a half years but my grandparents did not look once

I am the author of the article: "I decided not to let my husband take my children to visit my grandparents", thank you for your understanding and sharing, and also thank you so much for the bricks and stones of many brothers.

Only then did I realize that I am so lucky because my husband is a modernist, non-patriarchal and imposing wife and child like his brothers. I do not intend to explain, justify, only a few points to clarify so that you do not have to misunderstand and also want to end the story here because there are many things to worry about in life.

Our two children are not fluent in Vietnamese, they are completely innocent and innocent, do not know anything about their grandchildren 's home, they are too young to understand, only know that their grandmother or video call every day, they realize It's just a grandmother, so there's no way you can tell me that I raised my son to be hostile. I have never told my child that my paternal house is not so good or that or praised my grandmother, nor have I ever banned her from contacting my paternal house; These things only my husband and I understand.

Her parents-in-law are not old people, they live in the middle of Ho Chi Minh City and know how to use social networks. When my son was born, they were only 54 years old, and my mother-in-law had only retired for about a year. Every time our parents-in-law's phone number called us, we hung up, and called back to our grandparents to save money, so there was no cost to call abroad so they didn't ask. My children lived in Vietnam for one and a half years, my grandparents did not look at his face once, then my wife and I did not mention that, invited my grandmother to come and play with my grandchildren for 3 months, she also answered that I did not come.

Some say my husband is weak and clingy to his wife's skirt. He is not perfect but he works hard and respects women and families. My wife and I have the help of our maternal grandmother, but both of them make efforts, work hard, not just spread the red carpet. Because of that, my maternal grandmother respected him very much, just like the "guest-in-law", no one dared to despise him. My husband can buy tickets himself and take his children back anytime without my consent, but if he doesn't choose to do so, you can understand why. If you do anything rash, do not think about the consequences of the future, we probably will not live together for 10 years and have 2 children. I know he knows how to think for children so he doesn't act in a hurry.

How we care about grandparents should not need to tell here, not to tell me gossiping, slander husband's family. Perhaps some of you confuse moss and confide. I only confided my story, did not name the image of my parents-in-law to advertise to the whole society. The talk section is the place to express your feelings, nobody knows who is who. I don't see any hatred in my mind, my point is clearly that if I have determined that I am uncomfortable in a relationship, avoid mentioning it. I can only try to heal a few times in my life, not my whole life. Sorry I'm not a saint. The reason I had written the previous day was because my husband reminded me about bringing my children to grandparents to see my face, otherwise my family would never talk about it.

I think you guys should have a glimpse of what I want to be a single mother, think of simply that when you're off, you need to stop the relationship. My husband is quite a good person, I agree, but my love is only 20%, you recommend that I still live in that marriage? I am more than love. You also do not think that divorce is due to adultery or want to earn West, West is not sure as we should not think of West is terrible. I find it very funny to think that I want to leave my husband and get married to the West; I'm not a teenage girl who needs a nationality to marry West, trade everything.

The future I did not say in advance but currently there is no need for men, as well as being emotional with the opposite sex. The work of women like rice, family management or the things of men I do okay. I think that being a single mother in society right now is not so different. Lastly, I just want to say thank you for all of your advice, I still keep my point of not letting my kids go home without me, for the health of the kids, and more I love my dad but I can never sleep with him. I just sleep with my mom. When I have the opportunity to play, it will create opportunities for children to meet.

Kieu
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Psychological consultant Phong Nguyen suggested

Dear friend!

Through the lines of letter you open up, I deeply feel the urgency to get out of your current situation. Perhaps the present family life really makes you feel stuck, totally immersed in suffering and torment, while having the thought that you are the cause of everything. However, all of the emotions you have been experiencing are the reactions that are likely to occur in anyone in the face of a breakdown.

First, in terms of the relationship between you and your husband, it is possible that your mental breakdown has made you unknowingly forget that divorce, or whatever the outcome is, is rooted in both. Besides, the end of a relationship is only meant to inform that the two sides no longer meet each other's needs, this does not mean that your self-worth decreases or you are automatically label with any other undesirable names.

As a mother, you will definitely have more to worry about. You and your husband have broken up many times because you wanted to have two children to live with both parents. However, we all understand that these efforts do not work well when your spouse is unable to stay together. Moreover, when children live in a family environment where their parents often argue, the scuffle takes a lot of negative effects on psychology. Therefore, I think this is the time when you and your husband consider another method, both to solve the problem between the couple and to be able to provide both financially and mentally for the children.

As you have shared, you are completely able to financially support your children with the current job. Moreover, after your divorce, your husband is still responsible for providing financial support for you and your children to have a sufficient living condition. I encourage you to make separate plans for your parents and children after moving out, creating an initiative for your own life, determining the amount of money a month you need to pay (tuition, meals, petrol, etc.). ). Then seek additional sources of outside income, or seek support from your family for the first time (3-6 months). Besides, you and your husband can fully schedule to take the children to go out, connect with both sides of the family. Your husband still has the right and obligation to visit and take care of them both mentally so that they do not lack their father's love.

Whatever decision you make, with all my sincerity, I always expect you to think and believe that you have the right, the ability to become an emotionally independent woman, think, act. Wishing you always steady on the road ahead, a solid support for yourself and the children.
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My husband and I find myself guilty

I know that my husband committed adultery, so I cursed at him and found that it was not wise for me to do so.

My husband and I are about to divorce, waiting for the court to call. When I was with my husband, I always thought that parting would be more peaceful in this life, until I moved out I could not find peace. I tend to take all the guilt about myself, feel bad, useless, and miserable children. I also excused my husband, saying that everything he treated me badly was because of me. So I regret, I want to be healed but he disagrees. I always feel restless, worried, afraid of everything and sometimes think of suicide. I had to talk to a psychologist, and for a short while that feeling returned to me, distracting and difficult to sleep. I felt that I was not competent enough to make decisions and be independent. Above is the situation I encountered, and below is my marriage.

We have been married for 10 years, have 2 children, well-behaved and docile. In the early years, life was quite happy, in recent years there were many things, in general we melted and re-matched several times because we thought for our children. The cause comes from behaving on both sides, both hurt their parents on both sides. I don't know how to be patient, just seeing my husband go with girls makes um up again. He thought that made him lose face. Then we returned more than 2 years after a period of separation, then quarreled, fighting. I keep arguing that he beat me. When I was beaten, I turned into a madman, crying. Recently, I knew he was dating, knowing that he no longer loved me. He also said that I was bored. You go on public, go out, eat out, and take my children with you. The other girl was near my house, they also said I was mentally ill. In my heart, I still want to keep the family for my children, but I cannot help it. I still cried, could not sleep, cursed.

My months were like that, so much frustration in my heart, my husband kept urging me to sign the form. Then I signed, and after that he chased me away, I didn't go. A few days later, we argued again, he punched me a few times, I cried um and decided to move away. At that time, the daughter was ill. He chased me but told me not to take the child. My mother-in-law also keeps me from taking my grandchildren, in my heart I understand, she keeps me and doesn't chase me. I was so upset because I took my son.

One day later I regretted that it was my son's house, there were always three mothers and children there, not far from me. You are not good to me but good to me. In addition to staying at the inn, I always worry about money. I wished to be there, he still provided education and food for my mother and children. I can take care of my children and I will not apply economic pressure if I am still there. Why can't I sacrifice for my children? He said the divorce was just to make me silent, not say anything when he was with her. I did not have the self-esteem so I wanted to be with people who did not need me, but compared to the fact that my parents were together, my husband and I no longer loved each other, living together because my children felt better.

That's what I used to think, it's too late now. What should I do so that each day passes without feeling guilty. I myself also think that his affair, beat me is caused by me. I don't know how to behave, I don't know how to cultivate my home. Is it because of me that I broke my family?

Huyen
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I want to collect a room fee for my niece

My house has a house, divided into 4 rooms for rent, each room costs more than 3 million / month. In order to build a house, my family pays nearly 10 million dong in principal and interest in the bank.

Since the house was built, my house has been lived by my grandson next to my husband's house for a year. Because of the increasing spending in the family, I want to reclaim my room or want my child to pay a little for the room, especially about half of the room I am renting, but my husband disagrees. According to you, should I ask for room fee because she is already working and earning income.

flower
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Người tình biến mất âm thầm khi vợ anh biết chuyện

I am an adulteress woman. He came to me when I was the most lonely, when I could not find a common voice with my husband and our marriage was very boring and boring.

I found in him sympathy, sharing and then we betrayed the family to intimate relationship with each other. Every time I finish this, I tell myself to stop because it is an unethical relationship and social norms. You have a family, me too, no one wants to tear down the family. He always said he loved me, in my heart he had a certain place and an intimacy, fascination hard to resist.

This relationship has lasted a few years, we also think of ending without being able to do it. Then his wife knew, from that day he disappeared without any explanation, no farewell. Sometimes on social media I still see him posting pictures of happiness with his family, I feel so sour. I can not forget you. 3 months passed and he still did not reply, so I still think about him incessantly.

Should I take the initiative to see you break up? The fact that he didn't contact me was discovered, because he didn't love me or because he still loved me, right? Now I want to get out of this situation without knowing what to do, please give me advice.

Hoai
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The son suddenly cut all communication with his maternal grandmother

I am 40 years old, single mother, son in grade 10. I divorced my husband for 4 years, since then my father and my son have never had a pension or visit. I did not dare to think of my own feelings, but worried about my children.

In the early years when I divorced, I found my son normal, sometimes even saying that my mother and I lived so well, there were three arguments about each other, fighting for forehead swelling and suffering. My work is quite hard but I always spend time talking and confiding with my children. I am very obedient and understand the story. For the past year, I have no idea what my child is experiencing and I hardly ever talk, always avoid me and answer very brief questions like "yes", "no" or "don't know". I still study hard, obediently, after school or playing puzzles and reading comics, especially I get angry easily when someone reminds me about my father and family.

I once drove my child to school about colliding with another motorbike, both sides exchanging words, I tried to beat people with bricks. When my grandmother died, my mother, my brothers and my sister-in-law were sitting and talking, and my son sat next to me, listening to nothing and never going home. When I got home, I blocked all phone numbers. I have a small, heavy-mouthed but my son refused to come back, if Mom liked me, she would come back. Since then, the relationship between the child and the maternal family is also distant.

One time my brother paid me to ask me to take care of him, I asked him, "My mother asked for your help, my mother does not need anyone to be pitied, I am going to work soon, even if I am hungry I will never Now take your money. " My younger brother also said that he had a reckless and haphazard attitude. I kept asking why he had such an attitude towards his maternal grandmother, and he answered, "Because of his feelings, I want to live up to my feelings, love to hate clearly. There is no one to live in my mother's life, I am responsible for myself, I have to show my attitude when someone disrespects me so I can protect you. " The words my child understands partly because I am quite gentle, do not like to argue much, sometimes I was bullied by the youngest in the house.

What worries me the most is that she is very introverted and sensitive to many things, thinks like an adult, is not as carefree as a friend of the same age. My child is still studious, obedient, and loving my mother but I do not understand what he is thinking and wanting. I was really confused when my son was growing and his temperament was always abnormal. Sometimes I think it's good that I don't give my child a complete family? Any single mother who has children like me, share with me. Thank you.

Duyen
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Husband wants to manage family expenses

My husband and I have been married for 2 years, with a nearly one-year-old baby boy. Now he says he doesn't trust me to spend, telling me to give him all his salary and what he gives to see if he has to borrow so much.

Before marriage, there were many problems but I thought nobody was perfect, so I kept closing my eyes. We quarreled, or argued, especially about money. He only finished high school, worked as a hired labor and manual labor; I attended a prestigious university and graduated a stable job. The people I contact with are only in the market environment, and when I use profanity. My friends all have an education and the workplace environment so communication is different. This until I got married I discovered. I love him because he is someone who cares, and when he quarrels, he often shows himself as a selfish and paternalistic person.

I want to rent a house near my workplace to travel from the moment of getting married, he called away. I want a peaceful home only. Until I got elected again, he was the same. I think the couple now has no economy, a little far away for cheap, later finished laying out more widely. Every day I still carry the dozen pregnant pregnancy. In addition, when I was pregnant, I was passive, had to stay at home for 2 weeks, at 6 months of pregnancy, threatened to give birth prematurely, that did not stir his mind. When he gave birth and went back to work, he wanted to rent a bigger space because there were children and grandmother to look after him, he still insisted on staying in that area.

He did not work as a salary, he never gave me money, money he spends, buy whatever he buys. Like that, I don't know exactly how much you work because of uncertainty, not working the other day. My salary is over tens of millions, spending in the family, of course his salary also spent on the family as well. I want you to find a stable, low-paying job as well, thanks to that and that. I worked for 3 months there. Now my husband and I still have to borrow, every month I announce how much I owe. Last month when I announced it, my assistant fire, calling me so much, asking me to buy a lot of things, he even said he didn't trust me in economic matters.

When I was not married, I used to shop, go to the movies, go out to eat with my friends. My monthly salary is not only for my mother but also for clothes and cosmetics. Since getting married with children. I only spend for my family, I no longer communicate with my friends on outings, coffee, movies, I don't buy anything for myself, my clothes are still in old clothes or sometimes women The company brings second hand goods. I am quite independent, even if I run out of money I would rather borrow money from you than want to ask my husband for money. Because there were a few times when I ran out of money, opened my wallet to get some three hundred, he said that the money was running low, my wife 'trimmed' a bit too much. Knowing it was a joke but really, it made me think.

Linh
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I no longer love my husband

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, having 2 children who are very tedious. Talking about my married life up to the present time just encapsulated through two words "stuffy".

When I married I didn't think much, how much gold money was given to the husband's house to build the house, I only had the wedding ring to be valuable at that time. When I returned to my husband's home, I found that life was too stifling. My husband, after returning home from work, buried his head in coffee and had a drink and could not help me with anything. Sometimes I told him not to take care of my children, I told him to do it but then he came to my hands, from rice, clothes, children ... I don't know why I'm so strong anymore. , sometimes exhausted, I ate rice while crying.

My husband left me at home to follow his friends for "relationships". In my eyes, they are unjust and career. Yet he came and my brother, cursing me for not taking care of his sick child, unable to cook good meals, while good food for me, he never asked me what to eat and what to do. Every time he quarreled, he went to sleep with my mother-in-law, sometimes 2 to 3 weeks, and my mother and I slept indifferently. Meeting each other in the house, we walked past each other like 2 strangers.

I disliked my father-in-law, when he went out on the street, he was thrown away to fill his house, and in the house like a battlefield, I was not allowed to clean them, if touched I would be cursed. My father always confessed to me and cursed me for being stupid, especially saying that I was a freeloader. My mother-in-law almost had nothing to criticize except my dissatisfaction with me. She never gave sincere suggestions, always waiting for my husband to tell me. I am tired of my married life, I cannot remember being cursed by my husband and my father-in-law, I was kicked out of my house because I did not do what they wanted. There are times when I defy everything, hug things away.

Not to mention my husband is lazy, brute, anything can hit me. When I was about to give birth to my second baby (one week to be due), he cursed me badly in front of my brother. When I gave birth in the hospital people were cared for by my family members, and I swam by myself. The day I was discharged from the hospital, I accidentally hit my head with my hand, my husband also cursed me in front of so many people, making me extremely embarrassed. My first child was autistic, the first sentence my brother told me because when I was not happy to vote, I was frowning all the time, watching horror movies so much so his son ..., enough. I am really tired, does anyone understand me?

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My boyfriend said I was an adulteress

He suggested that we have children to force us to marry, I disagree because his mother did not like me, it would only be more disgusting. I said I wanted to stop, he thought I was exhausted.

I am 30 years old, 32-year-old lover, know each other nearly two years. We all work away from home, I live in the North, my brother in the Central Highlands. After 2 months, my family wanted me to come back to my hometown to prevent this love, the reason for the geographical distance and the home of my father with a birth defect brother. I went home to follow my family's wishes but we stayed in touch and fell in love for a year. When I returned to my hometown, he came to visit me and talk with my family. My parents saw that we were determined to love each other, so we all suppressed our worries and sadly agreed.

A year later, I left the country to return to live with him as a married couple, though my family was very sad and disappointed in me. This time we went to visit his house. His family is very poor, I could predict but still a little shocked because of being so poor. When his mother and relatives asked them to marry me, I answered that he was still in school (he worked in the armed forces, was in college), so he was not married, wait until later when they were ready to report. . Then his mother said no to me. I just thought his mother was not satisfied.

His family has a due bank debt due to the loan of a family member who is in debt, now they have fled to owe it to his family. I decided to sell my land down here to support my mother. Hearing that he sold the land, his mother called to say that he wanted to come and play with him, afraid he would play with girls and boys out of money. While he was working as a salary, he could not afford to study, pay debts, and borrow money from the bank to buy land. Since I knew him, I give him extra money every month. I voluntarily gave it because I felt sorry for my salary that I was too little and struggled enough. Once he even asked me to lend money to his friend, and then he didn't return it. I have never spent any of his money or tapped anything, when I heard his mother say that I felt terribly offended, and then passed.

I told him to get married first, get married later, if we stay together like this, we would not marry or not, he would avoid it. This time my family pressed for marriage, said if determined to marry this year or break up, free each other, both old already. His mother resolutely disagreed, she said if she married, she would not marry me, if she could live together and have children, she would not be married.

I really love him very much and also know he loves me but I no longer see their future. I love leaving my family, my job, my daughter's dignity. Love my brother, despite the advice of family and friends, in the eyes of everyone I am childish, in the determination of reason, love is blind, feeble, cowardly. because I love you so much. Now, to him, I am the adulteress, and he is the poor woman. What should I do?

Red
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I'm not sure my whole life faithful to my husband

In the past, I used to hate those who committed adultery, when they betrayed their partners, all words were blamed. I understand enough how valuable I am to reject any flirtations and temptations.

I was so arrogant that I always thought that if girls were only pretty but the level of not just like flowers would wither at any time, until then, they would lose all value. I ignored the naive student sentiments, since childhood, what was sown in my head was to escape poverty, although at that time I did not understand how to escape. Just know my father often said that if not study, society will eliminate poor people on their own. In addition, I also heard the sisters tell about those who were abandoned by the love, I pouted contempt for those who love early, so rushed into school, learning how to love lessons. So much so that the boys at first looked at me like they were enjoying and flirting; after a while they will know how to get away automatically and not make me angry.

I love you, now my husband, after finishing college. It was simply not love but feeling something was missing in my life, and then when it came I was sucked in without pulling my leg out. The competition days, studying too tired, I played social media, took a photo posted, and hundreds of likes made me surprised. My old friends, my brothers, and my husband also flirted through text messages. I am entertained by finishing everything, after exhausting working days, chatting with them. I didn't see anyone because I was afraid of losing time, afraid to have direct contact. What came also came, the first time he was far away sending me flowers and chocolates, a method that made me feel so touched, for so long I had never gotten used to such romantic things.

I don't know what you do, what you have, I just feel familiar because in the old days we used to meet each other in the same village, we just know who each other's family has, and our personalities and our work ... we don't care about. I subjectively thought that if I just knew it, I quickly nodded. I have been disappointed many times before but I did not break up because I was afraid because of my reputation, I did not want to get used to getting used to it but I did not want to get married. In addition, at that time, the parents were also in the process of divorcing, not wanting their families to suffer more from the language. It was that cowardly thought that pushed my life into tears-filled days, leaving my feet at receding hours. No one understands me, there are nights sitting hugging the pregnant belly, waiting for the husband to go back to drink, his wife cooked rice did not bother to touch.

I do not let myself and my child suffer because of my choice, try as hard as I can so that when the pregnancy and childbirth are not enough emotionally, we will be compensated materially. I was straining to receive attention from my husband. That made him always say I was happy, giving birth to my husband. I always try to make fun, try to make my husband not crave for strangers outside. I want to warm up the couple but sometimes touching the husband is thrown out. I felt his reluctance, saw that he was not love enough with his wife, and that he counted again the patriarch.

Many nights tears flow, sometimes I wish only once my husband heard me confide, but all just like flying clouds after drinking with friends. For my husband, it is better to leave his wife than to drink with you. Previously I was a dynamic girl, love life, now I no longer have any feelings for anyone. After trying to cultivate, cook delicious meals, and try to do things to make the couple's life happy, I realized that I was not rewarded. I find the person beside me so selfish, letting go is what makes me most peaceful. When I did it, I was strong, but it was still miserable because what I wanted was a complete family and could not, I felt so failed.

Over the years, have your husband ever actively hugged me or done something to make me smile? Never, instead of tears, day by month, are we too young? Numerous quarrels, slaps, nights of constant drinking, nights I hugged and cried, sorrowful, miserable or miserable? By now I think, women should also find themselves a path of happiness after the hurt and the cold.

By the end of these lines, I was still a young mother, wanting to have feelings, still faithful to my husband, having no intention of finding anyone else, but through such trauma, I'm not sure I am faithful to my whole life. I'm in a quiet state, thinking about things in many directions.

Vân
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